# Find What You Both Want

> Answer scenario cards in private, then turn over only the kinks you both want.

Source: https://getkneel.com/guide/kink-match
Published: 2026-10-25

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*Answer alone, see only what you share*

Each partner answers scenario cards on their own phone, one card at a time: yes, curious, or not for me. When you both finish a pack, your matches show face down and you turn them over one by one. Only shared interests are shown; your no is never shown to your partner. In solo mode you answer alone and keep a list of your own yes and curious answers. A Premium feature; any partner's Premium unlocks it.

## Why it exists

Talking about kinks face to face is hard, and a printed yes/no list shows each partner every answer. Kink Match lets each of you answer in private and shows only what you both want.

## Capabilities

### 13 themed packs

164 scenario cards across packs such as Essentials, Sensory Play, Service & Devotion, Bondage, and Rules & Rituals. Each pack shows an intensity label.

### One card at a time

Swipe right for yes, left for not for me, or up for curious; buttons do the same. Dominants see each card written from their side, and some cards carry a safety note.

### Results when you both finish

A pack's results open only after both of you have answered it. If you finish first, Kneel notifies you when your partner finishes.

### Face-down reveal

Matches start face down. Tap a card to turn it, or turn them all. You see what you both said yes to, and what one or both of you is curious about, with a match score for the pack.

### Your no is not shown

Your partner never sees your no. The server sends only the shared matches to the other phone, never your full answers.

### Use a match

Open a task or ritual form already filled in from a match. A submissive suggests it instead, and it goes to the Dominant as a proposal.

## How each role uses it

### For Dominants (Dominant)

See what your submissive wants to explore, without seeing what they said no to.

- Cards are written from the Dominant's side
- Turn a shared yes into a task or ritual from the match card
- See a match score for each finished pack
- Answer a pack again later; your partner sees the new results

### For Submissives (submissive)

Say what you want to try, without your partner seeing what you said no to.

- Your no is never shown to your partner
- Answer at your own pace; each answer is saved as you go
- Curious answers show as things to explore together
- Suggest a match as a task or ritual for your Dominant to review

## Use cases

- Starting out: each partner answers the Essentials pack to find a first shared yes
- Private answers: each partner answers alone, and only shared interests are shown
- From talk to practice: turn a shared yes into a task or ritual
- Scene ideas: your own yes and curious answers show as suggestions on your Scene Log wishes list